What It’s Really Like to Care for a Dying Parent

It’s really tough to decide the best course of action for someone who is dying, especially in our society where life, any sign of life, is prized, and not necessarily the quality of life. It’s truly difficult to make a decision for someone’s life especially if you love them.

But the better question is, would you want to live in that fashion?

Talk about death decisions with your loved ones so they know what to do in case something happens. This will save time and grief among the family and friends. The health care proxy doesn’t have to be guilted into making that hard decision that no one is willing to make.

As for organ donation, if someone willingly signed up to be an organ donor, I would assume any organ is ok as long as it’s usable and that I don’t look completely mutilated after the process. I mean, in the end an organ is an organ. If it can help save another life and I’m already dead, why not help out someone else?

TIME

xojane

There are two things that movies consistently get wrong: sex and death.

Just like no real-life sex scene has ever involved seamless, body-fluid-free sex (I, for one, seem to consistently get stuck in my skinny jeans while covertly trying to take them off), very few deaths are the simple, dignified situations we see portrayed on screen. Death, real death, is a messy, confusing process for everyone involved.

A few months ago I wrote an article for xoJane about my mother, who was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. At the time she had plateaued. Roughly three weeks ago, however, that changed.

Determined to walk, she hauled herself out of bed — and promptly fractured her pelvis. At the time, she was still receiving treatment — now she’s in hospice. As terrible as it was before, this is worse. She is completely bedridden and has a catheter. Despite everyone’s best efforts…

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